“If you have to completely burn yourself out before you’re ‘allowed’ to rest, that’s not rest. That’s recovery.”
Andrea Knapp

Have you ever finally gotten a chance to sit down and then immediately felt like you should be doing something?

Because SAME. 😂

You sit on the couch and suddenly your brain remembers the laundry.

The email you haven't answered.

The crap sitting on the kitchen counter.

The appointment you need to make.

The thing you promised someone you'd do.

The 47 tabs open on your computer.

And apparently that one closet you haven't cleaned since 2019 is now an emergency.

So instead of actually resting, you sit there thinking about everything you should be doing, which means you're technically sitting down but your brain is still running a full shift.

I don't know exactly when we decided rest had to be earned, but somewhere along the way a lot of us got REALLY good at believing it.

We wait until we're completely exhausted!

Think about how ridiculous this would sound with almost anything else.

You wouldn't wait until your car completely ran out of gas on the side of the road before deciding maybe it needed fuel.

You wouldn't wait until your phone shut off every single night before charging it.

But ourselves?

Oh, we'll keep going until we're exhausted, irritated, overwhelmed, snapping at people we actually like and standing in the kitchen wondering why we walked in there.

Then we finally say, "Okay, I really need a break."

No shit. 😂

The problem is, by then we're not really resting anymore. We're recovering.

I used to think slowing down meant I wasn't doing enough

This one has taken me a LONG time to unlearn.

I spent years believing that being productive meant I was doing life right.

If I was accomplishing things, helping people, working, taking care of my family and checking things off the list, I felt useful.

But slowing down?

That was uncomfortable.

Because when you've spent a lot of your life in go mode, sitting still can actually feel wrong.

Here's something I've learned about myself: sometimes I wasn't staying busy because everything actually needed to be done.

Sometimes staying busy kept me from having to pay attention to how I felt.

That's a very different thing.

Sometimes "doing nothing" is actually doing something!

I think we need to change what counts as productive.

Going for a walk because your head feels like it has 900 tabs open counts.

Sitting outside for ten minutes without your phone counts.

Going to bed instead of folding the laundry counts.

Taking a day where you don't accomplish anything impressive counts.

Doing something because you ENJOY it, not because it improves you, grows your business, helps your family, burns calories or checks something off a damn list, absolutely counts.

Not everything in your life needs to produce an outcome.

That's something I have to remind myself of too.

Because I can turn almost anything into a project. 😂

Give me a relaxing hobby and I'll somehow have a spreadsheet, a business idea and a 90-day plan for it by Tuesday.

Your body shouldn't have to scream before you listen to it

This is something I've become much more aware of through my own healing journey.

Our bodies give us information all the time.

We're tired.

We're tense.

We're overstimulated.

We're irritated.

We're having a harder time focusing.

Everything feels like one more thing.

And instead of paying attention, we often push harder.

More caffeine. More motivation. More discipline. More productivity.

Sometimes what you actually need isn't another trick to make yourself do more.

Sometimes you need less.

That doesn't mean quitting your job, abandoning your responsibilities and spending the next three months wrapped in a blanket watching Netflix.

Although some days that sounds pretty damn good. 😂

It means learning to notice yourself BEFORE you hit the wall.

And yes, this can feel uncomfortable at first

Especially if you're the person everyone depends on.

If you're used to being the one who handles things, slowing down can bring up all kinds of thoughts.

I'm being lazy.

I should be doing something.

Everyone else needs me.

I'll rest when this is done.

Except "this" is never done.

There's always another load of laundry. Another email. Another project. Another person who needs something.

If you're waiting for the magical day when everything is handled and nobody needs anything from you before you allow yourself to rest, I hate to break it to you...

We're going to be waiting awhile. 😂

Maybe rest doesn't need to be the reward

Maybe it gets to be part of the plan.

Not because you've earned it.

Not because you've accomplished enough.

Not because you're completely exhausted.

Just because you're a human being and your body wasn't designed to operate at full speed every waking minute of your life.

I'm still learning this one.

Some days I'm really good at it.

Other days I'm sitting on the couch "resting" while mentally reorganizing my entire life. 😂

But I'm getting better at noticing when I'm doing it.

And maybe that's where it starts.

Not with another rule about how much rest we're supposed to get.

Just with permission to stop treating ourselves like machines that only deserve to shut down when something breaks.

You don't have to earn the right to take care of yourself. 💚

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